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Bullying and Conflict Resolution

What steps do you go through for Bullying and Harassment?

Recognize

1. How does it make you feel?

2. Is it fair?

3. Does it keep happening?

Refuse

4. Is it Safe?

5. Check feelings

6. Get cool and calm

7. Be assertive not aggressive

8. Say: "Stop, I don’t like that" (and walk away)

     9. "Stop it or I’ll tell the teacher" (and walk away)

(They bully again)

Report

10. Tell your trusted adult

What is your plan if you get Bullied?

Sample of a good plan

***Is it safe?

***Can I do this by myself or do I need a friend or even a teacher by my side

***Get cool and calm

***Be assertive and tell them to STOP I DON'T LIKE THAT

***If it happens again, tell them to STOP OR I'LL TELL (whoever your trusted adult at the school is)

***If it happens again, tell your trusted adult

Conflict Resolution

You first need to MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS before starting the ABC's

1. = Assess the Problem / Restate the problem fairly
2. = Brainstorm ideas
3. = Consider the consequences
4. = Decide and act
5. = Evaluate how it went

IV.

Manage Your Emotions

1. Check You Feelings

• "I feel ______________."
• "I need to get cool and calm."

2. Stay or Get Cool and Calm

• Take a deep breath and say "Cool and Calm"
• or, Bad thoughts over the waterfall - out to sea
• Take deep breaths

3. Use Assertive Behaviors

• Stand or sit tall
• Look at the person doing the bullying
• Speak respectfully in a strong, clear voice: "Stop it, that's bullying

4. Walk Away Calmly After you have Spoken Out

V.

Working It Out

1. Respectfully ask what is wrong
2. Listen carefully and think about your friend's point of view
3. Figure out what to do to make it better
4. Ask yourself, "Is it working?" If it's not working, try something else.
5. Apologize

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